This past week I celebrated my 20th birthday! I can’t believe that I’ve already been around for 2 whole decades! I’ve learned a lot in the past 20 years and I decided I would share some advice I have gathered throughout my teenage years. So, I have made a list of 9 life tips for teenagers and I truly believe that living out every one of these will lead to a better life! I hope you find it helpful! (links to my birthday outfit are included at the bottom of the post)
1. Be goofy and have fun
It’s okay to be weird! Do silly things in public with your friends, wear ridiculous “trendy” outfits, come up with dumb inside jokes, talk about your crush using code names, and don’t be embarrassed to do these things! When you look back on your teens you will cherish those goofy memories you have with your friends. Be yourself, do something silly, have fun, and never act like you’re too “grown up” to play like a kid.
2. It’s okay if you don’t know what you want to do with your life
By the time you reach your teenage years, “a princess” is no longer an appropriate answer when people ask what you want to be when you grow up. You start to realize that being a grown up is quickly approaching and you have no idea what your going to do with your life after high school, let alone who is going to be your date to prom. As graduation nears and college applications are released, you start to worry because you don’t know what you want to study or what kind of career you want to pursue, and that’s okay! How could you possibly know anyways? You’ve never actually had any real work experience! You don’t have to know what you want to do with your life right away, you’ll figure it out along the way as you begin your adult years. So don’t stress too much about not having your whole life planned out while you’re still a teenager. Besides, that’s what your twenties are for!
3. Step outside of your comfort zone
Looking back, one of my biggest regrets as a teenager is staying inside my comfort zone too much. I wish I would have tried out for that sports team sooner, or joined that club i never got around to doing, or talked to that girl who could have ended up being my friend. Doing things that are outside your comfort zone can be nerve-wracking, but are often times rewarding in the end. Even if something doesn’t work out, at least you tried and can learn something from the experience.
4. Believe in yourself
Know in your heart that you are capable. It can be a struggle sometimes to have confidence, especially when you are a teen. But, that confidence can help you to achieve a goal, make a new friend, overcome your fears, stretch your limits, and so much more. It is extremely important to believe in yourself and is a skill that you will need your whole life. So keep working on building your confidence, practice makes perfect and it’s best to start early!
5. Friends will come and go, and thats okay
This one is a hard realization to come to, but it’s true that not all of your friendships will last forever. Now I’m not saying that you’re going to lose every single one of your friends, there will be those special relationships that will last a lifetime, but that is definitely not always the case. People change in their teens, their personalities will adjust, they’ll become interested in new things, they’ll grow in directions you never saw coming and you might start to drift apart from your friends. However, this is not a bad thing! Although at the time, it’s hard to grasp that you and your friend may not be close anymore, but new friends will come! Friendships are constantly changing and evolving, ending and beginning. Yes it does suck to lose a friend, but new ones will always come around, no matter how impossible it may seem.
6. Get involved and stay active
One of my best tips for teens is to get involved and stay active! Join a club, or a sports team, or an organization. Find something you’re passionate about and then put your whole heart into it. Be active in your extracurriculars! Run for president, show leadership, be an innovative member, not only will these things look good on a resume one day, but it will make your teenage experience so much more enjoyable and exciting!
7. Work hard, it’s worth it
Work hard in whatever you do. Always, always, always give 110%. One of my favorite quotes is “The only way to get what you want in this world is through hard work,” and I couldn’t agree more with that statement. If there is something that you want to achieve, it is up to you to work hard for it and never quit trying. Work hard on your sports teams, in your organizations, at school, in your relationships, to achieve your passions, apply hard work in every aspect of your life.
8. Dream big
Never be afraid to have big dreams. It is possible for you to accomplish anything. It may take time and a lot of hard work, but you can accomplish anything you set your mind to. You should never settle for anything that you aren’t happy with. Having big dreams inspires you to work harder and be more passionate and driven to reach your goals. Dreaming small sets limits on yourself to leading an average life where you never reach your full potential, and you deserve so much more than a mediocre life.
9. Above all else, be kind
No matter what is going on in your life, always make the extra effort to be kind to others. Even if someone has hurt you or offended you, being impolite to one another never solves anything. Being kind is one of the best things you can be, not only will it make you happier, but also the people around you. Kindness is contagious, try your best to spread it everywhere you go.